So, I have been reading some old news articles about people committing crimes while in adult diapers, and I know this is an old topic, and it probably doesn't even have any current relevancy at the moment, but I wanted to sit down and write some thoughts on the subject. Going forward, the acronym "ABDL" stands for "Adult Baby(ies), Diaper Lover(s)". There's a lot of broken up sub-terminology under the umbrella term of ABDL, but for the purposes of this blog, I chose to keep those terms as simplistic as possible.
That being said, I'd like to begin with the following to get into this somewhat relevant topic of folks who believe our ABDL community is full of something we're ABSOLUTELY NOT (or so I hope)! Being either an AB or a DL is NOT a symptom or a cause of mental illness or mental health disorders. We're just as "normal" as the person you might be standing next to, or are your friends. There's nothing wrong w/ enjoying or using adult diapers! In fact, there are number of legitimate reasons why some adults might choose to wear diapers. Many of the reasons are examples of practical uses of adult diapers. I've taken the liberty of providing a short list, but it's not an all-inclusive one by no means. My list can be accessed by the following link below to a post from earlier in this blog site. If you'd like to contribute one that I have not considered, by all means I invite you to email me at ltcolf1r3ch1ck3n@yahoo.com, and be sure to use the subject line "For Your Blog: Good Reasons for Diapers!". The email address is a private one that I set up for the sole purpose of communication in the ABDL world/communities. My family & friends have absolutely ZERO (0) knowledge about it, and I prefer to keep it that way!
But that is not the topic I want to discuss in this post, but it is related to the idea of presenting reasons that are truly legit for wearing adult diapers. Many people, across the United States especially, have this notion that if someone's wearing adult diapers, they have one of many reasons why, and a lot of those acumens aren't good or positive in their minds. Some of which are:
1) They're physically sick. A classic, and quite common, misconception is that the person buying and/or wearing adult diapers is because we (either as an individual or a group) have a physical ailment that makes us, to any degree, suffer incontinence. Some people will either say something like "Oh, my dear. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. I hope you get better!", trying to be kind and accepting without having a preconceived notion that the person with the diapers is something else entirely. This isn't necessarily a negative reason until someone comes along, because there are some in the ABDL community who truly have a physical ailment that causes them to lose control over their bodily waste fluids like their bowels, or their bladders. But to make the assumption, or even to assume that someone MUST have a medical diagnosis to be buying / wearing adult diapers is not cool. Even if the assumption is correct, it's still not cool to point it out to others. Some folks, like myself, value not having a whole store know about my ailments, such as taking medication to prevent a serious medical problem, but in doing so I must take milk of magnesia to counteract the side effect of constipation from that medication. If someone in a store were to point at me while I was grabbing baby powder plus an absorbent underpad so I can put my diapers on without my stinky butt on my floors or my bed, and say "That guy is a weirdo. He's buying baby powder, and it looks like he's reaching for the adult diapers! He must be some kind of sick sicko fuck!", that might get a bit irritating. Thankfully, it's not happened to me. Most people in stores mind their own fucking business these days. I am happy that no one gives me a ration of shit about buying "baby products" for my adult diaper wearing rituals.
2) We're mental or mentally ill. This one is equally common, but it's a far more negative idea, because the person who suspects mental illness is basing their assumptions entirely from old tales of mentally ill patients having an inability to care for themselves, i.e. cannot bathe themselves, or go to the bathroom without help, or have problems with bedwetting even as an adult. That last one could also be a physical sickness notion on the part of the person who is being "judgmental" to the one who is buying/wearing their adult diapers.
3) We're child predators. This one is absolutely the WORST possible supposition that some people make any time they hear of someone wearing adult diapers, buying them, etc. Somehow, those folks think that individuals who either buy or wear their adult diapers are involved, somehow or some way, in the abuse or assault of children, sexual and/or otherwise. I've yet to hear of a single instance of this happening at the hands of any one indiviual AB or DL in our ABDL community, but it's not hard to understand why some groups of people make that unacceptable preconceived assumption. On the contrary, I would think that if a person is buying and/or using "baby diapers", then that assumption MIGHT (emphasis on MIGHT) have merit. Even still, some folks in our ABDL world are small enough, especially among women ABDL's, who really can fit into the larger size baby diapers, which in of itself isn't a "dead giveaway" of a potential child predator. I can say with some degree of certainty that, 99.9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the ABDL community are HUGELY against any and all forms of child abuse, assault, sexual assault, molestation, etc. In fact, I myself have family relatives who are still technically children, and it would break my heart completely if I learned that someone in the ABDL community attempted to harm them in any way. If I saw pictures of my family members being blasted on the internet that were unsavory, and also illegal as they are under 21, or 18 in most other states, there would be absolutely NOWHERE that individual who posted those images or video could hide on Earth from me. And my cane! In fact, they'd have to go to a hospital to have that cane surgically removed from their ass if I found out my family members were being unlawfully, illegally exploited in such a way. I would definitely welcome jail time if it meant my family members would not have to feel endangered in any way. That's not a threat, it's a fact and a promise!
4) We're a sex predator. I don't know how this one came about, and I don't want to know either. I've read some old stories about individuals, mainly men, who tried forcing women into compromising positions, or forcing them into diapers, or made unwelcome/unwanted advances to women while in diapers. If a woman made unwanted or unwelcome advances toward me while she was wearing diapers, I'd feel highly uncomfortable around them. Yes, guys like myself do exist in the world, men who are sensitive, but still heterosexual. The kind of men who, if a young woman had been heavily drinking at a party, and an opportunity comes up where he could take advantage of her but doesn't, are more than willing to be called all sorts of things, but are deep down very proud of making the kind of responsible choice to not take advantage of women (or men), whatsoever! I'd rather be called "gay" or "a homo" if it means that I did the right thing and hadn't done anything to a woman, drunk or otherwise.
We are in a society where if a grown man wears adult diapers, he is seen as sick in the head or something to do with mental health issues. Whereas if a lady, a woman (young or otherwise) is wearing an adult diaper, she is seen as cute, adorable, or has a kind of sweetness about her. Some people in my country, the United States, believe that if a woman wears diapers, she can still be "sexy as Hell", especially among heterosexual males. I admit, I find women who wear adult diapers to be very much attractive. It's probably just coincidence that I'm a heterosexual man. I've always been a heterosexual man, despite what some kids in my latter grade school years through high school would have anybody believing. Yes, I've even been called "a homo" due to my inability to have a woman for a date, or having not dated EVER. Also, I admit that I don't look at men the way I do toward women, because I'm a heterosexual guy. That said, I think that if there are men brave enough to tell their friends and family about their "adult baby" or "diaper lover" side, more power to them.
I've told a number of people, mostly women, about my diaper lover side. Of that small handful number of people I've told, one of which totally breached protocol & a promise to NOT tell other family members & relatives when that person got drunk at a party, and ended up telling our mutual relatives & their friends from work that I liked "hot chicks in Huggies". In fact, I was one day put on the spot about it, and I had to tell a lie saying "I have no idea what you're talking about!", and hoped & prayed no one looked any further. I especially didn't want to admit to it while riding in a car filled with both my aunt (by marriage) & uncle, and plus a female young cousin, as in younger than 18 cousin at the time. But that's what I'm talking about. If I had been a woman, then nobody in my family would've said a damned thing about my "diaper side", but because I'm a guy, they were all curious about it, and not in a good way "curious".
I was thankful they didn't ask me point blank about myself wearing adult diapers, but it was definitely not fun learning that my own sibling had betrayed my trust. The same sibling who had directed mutual friends of ours to sexually assault me at 7 or 8 yrs old, because that got my sibling's jollies going. Sick fuck!
Anyway, the bottom line is that depending on who is asking about me buying and/or using adult diapers, I can either:
- Lie - Hope they don't ask more pointed questions about it.
- Exaggerate - Sometimes known as the "truthful lie", stretching the truth just enough for it to be a lie, or....
- Tell the person asking those questions to mind their own fucking business.
For now, I think that's where I'm going to end this blog. I want vanilla folks to understand one thing, and one thing only. For the most part, those of us in the ABDL world / community are harmless. Many of us are uncomfortable with sharing our true identities for a number of reasons. My own stories of having my trust betrayed by a family member are among those reasons. It's the equivalent in some respects to "coming out" as either [gay, transgender, transvestite, etc]. If we tell the wrong person, and they use that info against us, we could end up being accused of things we ARE NOT!
I'm extremely careful to not give away my true name, fearing that if someone finds out about my "diaper lover" world, they might not want to be associated with me. I would much rather not go through that issue.
