My random thought for the day.

JTK thought of the day:

Once I am done with surgery this coming week, I definitely want to start putting myself out there to meet people.  Especially single women.  I remain hopeful that despite the challenges being vision-impaired, among other things, that I will meet the woman of my dreams.  I know she's out there just waiting for me to meet her.  No, that's not being chauvinistic or misogynistic.  That's me trying to keep my hopes alive that I'll fall in love someday soon with a woman who shares many of the same passions and interests as myself.  Yes, that too includes my ABDL interests.  

Though, there are some women out there believe that all men are the same and want only one thing.  I hope that someday I'll get the chance to prove that I'm not like that at all.  I have no sexual desires whatsoever.  I'm more interested in the non-sexual intimacy, such as cuddling, hugging, kissing, and being there for my Ms. Right through thick and thin, the good and the bad.  I'm 100% sure if I were allowed the opportunity, I would be able to show this through my actions and behavior.  Besides, I'm on a mission in my life to be UNLIKE my late father.  

I believe that I have been successful, but never having been in a serious & committed relationship with a woman (basically being a virgin in every way possible) doesn't quite give me that opportunity.  I WANT to show some woman out there that not all men are the same.  The generalization of men from women is hurtful, at best.  At worst, it assumes we're all guilty for the actions of the few.  There's a chock full of historical record when broad generalizations have inadvertently hurt innocent people.  I can think of a few examples:

• The Japanese Internment Camps in the United States during the 1930's and 40's.

• The Jewish communities being persecuted for perhaps less than legitimate reasons.

• The Native Americans being labeled as "savages" by citizens of the United States during the western expansion era.

 

 • “When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending their best. They’re not sending you. They’re not sending you. They’re sending people that have lots of problems, and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists. And some, I assume, are good people.” - Donald J. Trump, June 16th, 2015 during an announcement speech for the 2016 Presidential Election, Washington Post Article "Donald Trump’s false comments connecting Mexican immigrants and crime"

Need I go on?

My point is that generalizing an entire group of people is wrong.  It's basically rendering a guilty verdict of all people within that group because some have committed egregious and cowardly shit.  I'm not saying that there's no men out there without fault.  It would be like the generalizations that some men use toward women saying, in part, "All women are nothing but bitches!" Or "All women lie!" Or some other label.  Yes, the men who use such phrases are, in general, bitter about being either rejected, mistreated, or otherwise hurt by some woman in their past.

Maybe their mommy didn't hug them enough.  Or too much!  Maybe they had a sister, aunt, cousin, or some other relative that displayed less than ideal behavior and acted inappropriately.  Ladies, don't sit there and pretend you're all perfect.  There's no such thing as a perfect human being.  

I could join the men who say dumb shit like "All women are [insert slur here]!", but I don't wish to, even though I've been hurt myself by a woman a few times in my life, even when I've done absolutely nothing wrong.  Instead of using those incidents as an excuse to generalize all women, I've chosen instead to believe that they're the exception, and not representative of all women everywhere on the planet.

It's just not right at all to say such things.  My mother, while I was growing up, had been extremely bitter about having been married to my late father.  He had been abusive, controlling, even violent at times (usually the result of more than a few alcoholic beverages & drug abuse).  So, I understand why she would say things like "All men are the same, and they're all assholes!"  But, she would say such things while I was still in my single digit years of life.  And she said those things while I was present in the room so often that by the time I reached my teens, I had this idea in my head that I was being judged as guilty for the crime of being a male.  Basically, guilty by association.

It took me 25 years to understand that this stereotype was inappropriate on my mother's behalf.  Because it had left me feeling like I did something wrong, even when I didn't.  And the thing I did wrong was being born a boy who would later become a man.  So, yeah, that shit stuck with me for decades until recently when I began to deconstruct the bullshit that both of my parents tried to instill into me, and to some extent my older brother.

In sum, the generalizations have to stop.  From both men and women, and that we need to realize that no one individual of a particular gender is responsible for the actions of their entire gender.  Just like it's wrong to conclude that just because a few Arabic men committed a heinous act on 9/11 means all Arabs and Muslims are violent motherfuckers.  

Besides, Christianity teaches us that God is the ultimate judge, and that we have no business doing His job.  Of course, I'm agnostic, so my philosophy on the matter is that we still shouldn't be judging entire groups of people based on what a few have done inappropriately.  It's wrong, it's hurtful, and it does more damage than we ever realize.

Which brings me to a somewhat related topic.  Up until as recently as the last 40 or 50 years, there's been gender reassignment procedures.  I can already visualize conservative Republicans having a near meltdown at the idea of a man becoming a woman or a woman becoming a man.  I can even picture their heads fucking exploding from a need to start forming a heavily bigoted response to this without my further elaboration on the subject.  So, hear me out on this.

I know that, at present, gender reassignment is somewhat permanent.  So, if anybody chooses to undergo such a procedure, they have to be absolutely ready for it.  This means going through extensive counseling and serious soul-searching and pondering on not just how it might affect the individual personally, but also how it might affect their friends and family.  In fact, whomever came up with the misguided idea that somebody does this on a whim is severely misinformed.  I can understand how such things could be misinterpreted to be seen as something somebody does without any research, or meditation, or having discussed it at length with a mental health counselor and/or medical professional that deals with this sort of thing.

Sure, there might be the occasional yahoo that does it on a whim, but they are the exception, and not the rule.  "Well, have you ever thought about becoming a woman?"  First, this isn't about me, and secondly, even if that were the case then yes, I've had some thoughts about it.  I won't deny that, but after some serious thought and meditation, I've decided I'm much better off being a man.  I don't know if I could ever handle being a woman.

Here's my take on this, though.  What if, and I have to strongly emphasize on the "if" part, gender reassignment surgery wasn't permanent?  What if we could totally reverse the process?  Would that soothe conservatives' minds?

Probably not.  They're still stuck with religious doctrine in their minds that is so ingrained, that even if it's been proven one day that their favorite sky daddy isn't real at all, and that it was all just an elaborate hoax to control them, I think Christian conservatives would double down and dig deeper saying, in part, "God is real, and nothing can change my mind!"

That's a failing, I suppose, to accept reality for what it is, because it's somehow easier for them, in their minds, to pretend that an omniscient, omnipotent, and omnipresent deity cares about every little thing that ONE individual out of BILLIONS of others.  To me, that reaks of narcissism.  Heavy, unhindered, narcissism.

Then again, the whole concept of a God who demands that we worship Him seems like a narcissistic deity in my view.

Anyway, back to my thoughts on gender reassignment procedures, let's assume for a moment that in the near future, it can be totally reversible.  And that future concept may not be as far-fetched as some would have us believe.  So, assuming that, I think we'd all be foolish and fucking stupid not to take advantage of it.  Think of it as an opportunity to finally understand the opposite gender.  This whole thing is being seen as a negative result when we could be missing an extraordinary opportunity.

When I had given some serious thought about whether I'd be happier as a woman than as a man, one of the things that came up was the following idea.  Since I am an ABDL, I've always wondered what it must be like for women in that lifestyle and community.  In fact, I had even considered this part strongly, since I've also seriously wondered what it would be like wearing adult diapers as a woman.  Yes, this is the part that had me so curious that I had seriously considered gender reassignment.  Because of the fact that the procedure is rather irreversible, I decided against it.  But if gender reassignment was 100% reversible, I might seriously consider going through with it.

This idea of becoming somebody else should be something welcomed rather than ridiculed or vilified.  I'll even go a step further.  What if it were possible, hypothetically speaking, to change into say an African-American, or Chinese-American, or perhaps a Mexican immigrant (legal and/or otherwise)?  We could learn a lot from being changed into different kinds of people.  We should be celebrating differences, and I think that if we could embrace the idea of gender reassignment as a positive not just for the individual, but for countless others who may want to see things from another perspective.

 

Imagine for a moment that, after careful consideration, you decide on gender reassignment surgery.  Let's say for this thought experiment that you're a woman, and after doing months of gender affirming care, you decide that you'll be better off as a man.  After undergoing the procedure, you are *poof* a man.  Rather quickly, you find out that all of the misconceptions women have about men are, at best, misguided and misinformed.  Maybe you realize that not every man thinks the same way.  Or maybe your perception of your original gender, women, also needs readjustment.  

Turning this around, maybe you're a man considering the possibility of becoming a woman.  After going through all of the required processes, including counseling and other gender affirming care, you awake after the procedure and *poof* you're a woman.  Let's also assume that every idea you had about women turns out to be nothing but a bunch of bullshit.  Everything from what your decades-old friendships with other men turns out to be misguided, misinformed, bigoted, misogynist, chauvinist, etc.  

From both thought experiments, let's say that after years of being that opposite gender, the man-to-woman and woman-to-man are reversed back to their original gender.  Do you think maybe they'd have a completely turned around perspective?  

I'd even go as far as to say that maybe we need to use this as perhaps an educational tool, assuming it can be one day totally reversible.  OR... maybe instead of using prison as a punishment for men who beat women, or are violent against women, we use gender reassignment surgery.  Think about it.  What better way for a rapist to get their comeuppance than to force them to become a woman and experience what it's like to be extremely and violently violated.  We should also consider the idea of putting research into gender reassignment procedures that would enable men who become women to experience things like forced pregnancies, or being treated as second-class in society.  

In my personal, humble opinion, at this moment in human history, we are missing an incredible opportunity to use such a thing as gender reassignment as a means to help each other LEARN from a different perspective, to be given a kind of "master key" to understanding what it is like for women, for men, and for everybody in between.  This whole notion by Christian Conservatives (usually Republicans who long for an era like the 1950's when men were men, and women were, at best, in the kitchen being silent) that gender reassignment is an abomination, to be vilified and that it goes against God's will (which is interesting given that according to Christian belief and mythology, God gave us Free Will) is misguided at best, malevolent at its worst.

This is why I'm highly against any kind of organized religion.  In my view, all religions are man-made, and thus are not to be trusted since we humans have a capacity to be deceptive, manipulative, and conniving.  Religion, and by extension Religious Doctrine, has been used in the past to curtail scientific discovery and research because it doesn't fit the religious narrative of their indoctrination rituals.  We ought to be working toward a non-religious Earth with compassion and empathy towards our fellow human beings.  And a step in the right direction would be to research ways to make gender reassignment a 100% reversible process, and to include things like giving trans women the ability to become pregnant.  I guarantee that if a man that becomes a woman undergoes pregnancy, their whole perception of women would change drastically and significantly.  

Let's do this!  Let's champion the idea of having the option to change into another person entirely.  I think it would make for a great opportunity to help foster understanding and empathy, as well as compassion, especially when it is what has been severely lacking in the last decade or so.

And that all is my random thought for the day!  Thank you for reading this far!  Feel free to leave a comment if you wish.  Bigots and other assholes are encouraged to entirely go fuck themselves with an iron stick!